Give Up Guilt

Give Up Guilt

give-up-guilt-1WHEN SUSAN glanced at herself in the mirror, she saw her shoulder-length brunette hair, clear skin and tailored jacket, but ignored it all. She felt too guilty about all that happened that day – she ate too many carbohydrates and had missed her morning walk.

In her eyes, she was a failure.

Most of us have days when we make decisions that are not good for us. When that happens, do not let your feelings of guilt keep you from moving forward. Here are a few things you can try to help get back on track:

Put Things Into Perspective

A single high-blood-glucose result or skipped workout will not cause you to develop diabetes-related complications. Problems such as neuropathy and kidney damage usually appear after a person has had months or even years of poor diabetes control.

Go easy on yourself – a single moment of “bad behavior” will not cause permanent damage.


Use The Guilt

A little guilt can be a great motivator — it shows that you are aware of your behavior and that you are even willing to make a change. Use your feelings to help you move in a more positive direction. People who don’t pay attention to what they do can’t learn from their mistakes.


Make an “Affirmative Inquiry”

To help really turn things around, focus on the behaviors you are proud of, not the mistakes you make. Stop analyzing what you do wrong. Instead, find more positive actions you can do throughout the day. This approach is called Affirmative Inquiry and is used by many successful organizations. Here is an example:

Susan successfully checks her blood glucose several times each day, but often misses her pre-dinner glucose tests. Instead of focusing on why she keeps missing that one test, she should examine what she is doing right
– how does she always remember to test at the other times? By using Affirmative Inquiry, she realizes that during the day, an alert on her watch reminds her to test her glucose levels.

Strengthen Your Support Team

It helps to have others around you who support your successes. Seek out those who celebrate the improvements you have made in your life and steer clear, if possible, of those who criticize your actions.

Look Forward

At the end of the epic film, “Gone With the Wind”, Scarlett O’Hara says the famous phrase, “Tomorrow is another day.”

It is.

Start each day with a clean slate and don’t berate yourself because of past mistakes. You can do it.

 

By Janis Roszler, MSFT, RD, CDE, LD/N, FAND

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